Lessons in Life

Today has been such an emotionally trying day as we try to figure out our living situation while the clock loudly ticks away. These past few months whenever we have hit a rough patch in our lives my go to sanity reliever is to go and do something to help someone even less fortunate. It always seems to put things into perspective for me.


So earlier I had Jay make up 2 sandwiches on my way out to Target determined that I would find someone in desperate need of food. As I was getting ready to leave Aniah asked me if I was going to feed the homeless people because she wanted to go. Both of us drove up and down Fredericksburg Rd until Aniah pointed out a homeless man sleeping on a bus bench underneath a pile of clothes in this Texas heat!!!


At first I didn't want to go up to this man because my excuse was he was sleeping and there were other people at that bus stop who would see me. As shameful as that sounds it is the truth. I can't lie to God so why lie to you all right?  I felt that way because the thought of going out of my comfort zone scared me.


 However sitting in that car with my 9 year old daughter I knew that I had to do what was right. So I pulled into the parking lot directly behind that old city bus bench and I quietly approached the gentle sleeping man sprawled out on his hard metal bed. At the end of the bench right at his feet I left those 2 sandwiches and quietly walked away.


As I got back into the car my sweet Aniah said "Mom when he wakes up it will be as if food just magically appeared! I sure wish I could see his smile!" It was then and there that God taught me an even bigger lesson. He is always working behind the scenes even when we are sleeping. He is still to this day a miracle performing God and somehow always manages to supply our needs.  As scary as my living situation is right now I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that Heavenly Father is working behind the scenes on this too. 

In The Thick of It

I have recently been asked about our business and how it has been going. I have always been really open about certain areas of our lives and our small business was one of them. However, when things didn’t work out the way that we had hoped we felt ashamed at our short comings and didn’t want to air it out in the open because honestly I didn’t want to open myself up to negative judgment. Recently though I was talking to God and I could hear him pushing me to share this with you all because someone somewhere needs to hear this.

With that being said I am not writing this for those who ALWAYS have it ALL together ALL the time. I am not writing it for those who live in a perfect white house with perfect white picket fences with perfect jobs and perfect lives. No I am writing this for those of us who are struggling to make ends meet, keep a roof over our heads, food on the table, bills stacked way up high and an answering machine full of purposely missed messages from debt collectors asking for money you just don’t have.  I am writing this for anyone who doesn’t always have it together and who is” in the thick of it”.

As most of you know early this year we tried our hand out in running a small business. While our small business helped to sustain us for a while eventually it bled us completely dry. We worked hard at our business but building a steady stream of clients proved immensely more difficult than we had anticipated. Money got so tight and then it just stopped coming in all together when my husband transitioned to a regular job.

We struggled to make our phone, electricity and car loan payment but that was okay because rent was always paid. Until it wasn’t.  Just writing those words makes my stomach churn and drop because it is failure looking at me right in the face again. I have been sitting on this for quite some time now and barely shared it with a very select few not too long ago because I had to. How could I share it with you all??? Opening up myself to that kind of humiliation seemed so scary to me that was until I really heard God talk back to me last night.

It seems that after all of the prayers and all of the tears that I have shed over time, God is most moved by the big huge raindrop tears that cascade like a waterfall splashing on to the very surface that it touches. He is moved by the tears that rack the entire body and pours forth from the very depths of the soul. I know this because it is always when I reach those low moments that God meets me there. Last night was no different and he being so faithful met me as I sat on my knees.

He showed me in my mind’s eye a picture of a midnight sky without one single star, as it was hidden deep behind the darkened clouds. I noticed that as I looked outwards in every direction all I could see was a black lake and I was right in the middle of it. It was here that I heard his soft and gentle voice speak to my spirit and say “Just as there is always darkness and always night, there is always a morning that comes to shed some light”. Just like that the sun started to appear and the dark clouds gave way to the early morning light. The scary black lake had turned blue and as I looked out in front of me in the very near distance just passed the lake I saw land filled with an abundance of tall green trees. It was here that I heard him again and he shared with me that darkness prepares us for the beauty of the mornings just as the beauty of the mornings were made to help shed light on that which was dark.

He shared with me that the lake only appeared dark because I couldn’t see past my current circumstances and that what he has waiting for us in the morning, whenever that may be, is worth the wait. He showed me that just like there are places in this world that go months on end in the dark so do certain trials BUT eventually there is always sunlight to follow.

As of now I don’t know what will happen to us or where we will go but what I do know for sure is that I will bloom wherever I am planted because Heavenly Father already has this and you will too! Don’t lose faith. Don’t lose hope. Don’t lose trust in the only one truly deserving of your trust. No matter what it is that you are going through or no matter where you are in your life know that Heavenly Father had a dream and created you and that makes you a uniquely inspired one of a kind original work of art. That makes you pretty special in his eyes and because of that He has a plan for you. He didn’t create you to throw you to the wind or worse in the garbage. He didn’t create you to toy with your emotions. No, He created you out of love and therefore you have divine purpose. Sometimes that divine purpose has to be molded out of life’s ugly experiences.

Looking back our business was not a failure even though it failed to sustain us any longer but it served its purpose. We moved out of our own comfort zone and did something that helped us believe in ourselves and our own abilities. Me being a self-proclaimed introvert by nature learned how to talk to complete strangers and better yet learned how to stand tall in the presence of others and really hold my own in a business situation.

 I learned that I was stronger and smarter than I ever gave myself credit for and quite honestly it helped to build up my self-esteem.  No amount of money can buy that and I know because I have spent so much time and money over the years on antidepressants and counseling sessions. No it took this lesson in life for God to take little old me (someone who always felt like no one) and propel me through that dark abyss just to show me how great he really knows I am. Better yet I am realizing just how awesome I really am.

So for those of you who are “In the thick of it”, as I heard him say it, this is for you. You are better than you realize and you will be far better off than you believe. Put your trust back on the one who has this. Put your trust on the one who creates all of the mornings of tomorrow.  Learn from the darkness what you must but know that there are bright skies up ahead.  Your land is finally going to be revealed if you can just hold on until your break of dawn. Whatever it is that you are facing You got this and He has got you.